I’ll never forget realizing the resentment I had was stealing my mothering. My inner clinging to years of “I was wronged” energy had kept me in a cycle of needing to prove myself, protect myself (unknowingly) and live emotionally distant from my kids (and husband). It was a powerful realization and I cried grieving the love I had been subconsciously blocking. Resentment puts us into a defensive state. A state where we feel unseen, unappreciated, not enough etc so we spend energy on proving the o
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Most women don’t wake up resentful. They become resentful by necessity. It starts when effort isn’t met. When asking doesn’t lead to change. When carrying more feels easier than being let down again. So she adapts. She stops expecting follow-through. She learns to stay alert. She tells herself she’s just being realistic. That adaptation has a name. It’s resentment. And once it sets in, the relationship changes shape. The marriage stops being a place where effort is received. It becomes a place w
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You’re not always the person who makes the mistake..👇🏻 But you get to be the person who decides to heal, grow from it and change your experience. You get to be the person who makes the most of it. And the most beautiful of all, you can be the one who transforms it not just for you, but for others. I’ve heard it said that “love covers a multitude of wrongs”. This doesn’t mean turning a blind eye. It doesn’t mean not addressing it. It doesn’t mean sweeping things under the rug or gaslighting. It
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Seriously tho, these are the “small” things that add up and make relationships feel like work. It takes intentional thought and effort to have what you want, it’s never by accident. I spent years overcomplicating everything and suffocating the joy in my marriage. (I didn’t mean to or want to, I didn’t know better.) But learning how to drop my resentment was the first step to the rest of these. That’s because resentment steals so much. It’s something we aren’t even aware of until we wake up one d
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So much of creating new is letting go of the old. The old ways of thinking, the old ways of being, the old expectations, the old patterns, looking back etc. For me, I had to get to a point where I addressed it all, processed it all physically AND emotionally, looked at what I wanted to change, drew boundaries, changed my own crap and then truly released the past. That looked like: -somatic practices to release the resentment stored in my body that was creating glass walls. -digging into the stor
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Comment “resentment” below 👇 You’d think most of these would be pretty obvious going into marriage but when you’ve never been married before, there’s a lot of learning involved! And for me, I didn’t know how to effectively communicate what I needed in a way that got a response. So then I flipped to trying to control it all. Which only made me frustrated and resentful and ultimately led to me stopping being vulnerable in the relationship. I didn’t feel heard. I didn’t know how to share my heart
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These thoughts didn’t make me strong. They almost ended my marriage. Because every time I thought “I’ll just handle it,” I wasn’t being supportive — I was taking over and then resenting him for letting me. Every time I thought “He’s not going to change,” I stayed in control of everything while secretly waiting for him to prove me wrong. And every time I told myself “It’s not worth the fight,” I stayed engaged in the same way — while hoping the relationship would somehow feel different. That’s ho
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