Dear Miss Manners: I have taken note of repeat inquiries about how to deal with not being invited to a wedding — presumably, though not always in so many words, without being a jerk in return.

In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin addresses the issue of people taking offense or pressing for reasons when they are not invited to a wedding, suggesting that it's best to let it go and not devalue the relationship.

Why should anyone take personal offense or press for a reason they were not included, much less devalue the relationship?

I would like to point out that weddings have gotten exceedingly expensive and that couples simply cannot afford to invite everyone to the reception. In many cases, it is still the bride’s family who pays,

A reader wonders if a bride is expected to explain why certain friends or family were left off the guest list; a mourner wants to know if black is appropriate to wear to a “celebration of